COMMUNICATION: THE 4 C’S – COMPASSION
For sales professionals – everywhere
This is the third installment in the series on Communication. The last one was about Courage – the kind of fearless, bold bravery that you need to ask buyers questions that will direct their actions to either buy today or to make an appointment with you to buy at a later date. If you missed it, please check it out.
This installment may seem like the opposite of Courage, as it’s about Kindness and Consideration for another human being – the buyer. I think to be a really good and consistent sales professional, you need a combination of both – Courage and Compassion.
Compassion occurs when we are not FEELING compassionate. When the other person is behaving badly or not doing what we want them to do. Compassion is the grace to understand what the other person is experiencing and bringing LOVE and empathy to the interaction. Lou Holtz once said: “When people need love and understanding the most is when they deserve it the least.” Compassion is all about us and our ability to be generous to someone who is taking a long time deciding, someone who doesn’t communicate as well as we do, who is afraid of making a bad decision so elongates the process of making any decision. Compassion allows us to use the words ‘I can appreciate’ and ‘I understand’ and truly mean them.
When we LIKE someone, it has a lot to do with them – their personality, the similarities with our own behavior and choices.. When we bring LOVE to the interaction, it’s all about us and our ability to put kindness above all else…and to bring the kindness of directing the other person through a challenging decision making process so that they are grateful and satisfied when the process is over.
If you are good at Courageous Conversations, then Compassion is likely something you need to practice. Open your heart to experience the human-ness of the other person and see what develops. And let me know….I’d love to hear from you.
Stay tuned for the next Communication C: Commitment
Now, go sell something!